My Adoption Story

Photo by my friend Duane Frisbe. Saigon, April 1975
There is a song at the beginning of the musical Miss. Saigon called Bui Doi. It’s a song about needing to care for orphans left behind following the Vietnam war. Here’s the chorus:
They’re called Bui Doi
The dust of life
Conceived in hell
And born in strife
They are the living reminders
Of all the good we failed to do
We can’t forget
Must not forget
That they are all our children too
I am Bui Doi and this song is my story.
In the aftermath of war torn Vietnam, thousands of children, many the children of GIs, were living in orphanages throughout South Vietnam. While many agencies and aid workers had staffed the orphanages and were assisting with international adoption efforts, the impending fall of Saigon in April of 1975 posed a huge problem for biracial children like myself. Our lives were at risk as the communist government and their hatred for Americans threatened the South.
During the last days of the fall, President Gerald Ford approved one of the greatest American humanitarian efforts. Two million dollars was released in emergency funds to airlift 3,000 Vietnamese orphans out of Vietnam for adoption in the United States and other countries. Mine was the last flight out. More Vietnamese orphans were adopted in the 27 days between President Ford’s signing of the Operation Babylift initiative and the fall of Saigon than in all the 34 years since.
I wanted to share my story with all of my readers as my testimony. It is the reason that I am so passionate about adoption, foster care and anti-trafficking efforts. While 3,000 Vietnamese orphans were thankfully lifted out of Vietnam and into safety, thousands more were left behind orphaned, victims of circumstance without hope. By grace I was not one of them, but I am keenly aware that I could have been. Because of my story, it is my grateful obligation to give them and other orphans voice.
James 1:19-27 is about not only hearing and understanding the word you have been given, but instructs us as believers to “Do what it says” (v.22). This passage also includes a verse, a command, that is too frequently forgotten or written off as somebody else’s mission. James 1:27 reads: “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.” This verse is not just for missionaries or aid workers, it is a command for all of us. If we, as Christians, desire to call him Father and truly know his heart, we need to be living James 1:27. It is not an option.
To parents of adopted or foster children: I bless you for answering the call to servanthood. For responding to the desire of His heart to have these children taken into his arms and welcomed (Matthew 18:5). I thank you for trusting Him and allowing Him to use you to take what was left for harm and allowing Him to use you to accomplish His good work, the saving of lives (Genesis 50:20).
To parents considering adoption or fostering: God’s work puts the lonely into families. I hope that you will answer His call to be a father to the fatherless (Psalm 68 5,6). My prayer is that you will listen closely to His call, trusting that the one who calls you is faithful and will do it (1Thessalonians 5:24).
To those who give, or are considering giving, time, money, and prayers to end trafficking and place children in families: My prayer is that you will follow the command to practice true religion, religion that is right and pleasing in his sight, so that through you the orphan will find compassion (Hosea 14:3).
If you have an adoption or orphan story please share it here and bless others.

Another photo by Duane Firsbe. Saigon, April 1975
I hope that by reading my story you are inspired to answer the call to look after orphans in distress. Below are some links for organizations that are working hard to respond to the James 1:27 call.
International Justice Mission: Working to bring justice for victims of slavery and sexual exploitation http://www.ijm.org/
World Vision and Compassion International: Fighting poverty and injustice for children and families around the world through child sponsorship and humanitarian efforts
http://www.compassion.com/default.htm
Judson Center: Adoption and foster care services in the Detroit area http://www.judsoncenter.org/
Focus on the Family, Cry of the Orphan: Providing resources for pre and post adoptive families http://www.icareaboutorphans.org/
Show Hope: Offering orphan care and adoption aid (including adoption grants for families) http://www.showhope.org/
Children’s Hope Chest: Answering the James call though world wide orphan relief efforts and Christ centered interventions http://www.hopechest.org/
For more information on Operation Babylift and the upcoming documentary Operation Babylift: The Lost Children of Vietnam (produced my my friends Tammy Nguyen Lee and featuring several of my adoptee friends) visit http://www.thebabylift.com/












25 Responses to My Adoption Story
Teresa
May 31st, 2009 at 8:19 pm
we are sooo blessed to be parents through God’s precious gift of adoption…we cannot imagine life without our daughters born not from my body but in my heart and they are soooo plan A for us! No other children in the world for us!
thanks for sharing your adoption story!
Amy N.
May 31st, 2009 at 9:40 pm
thank you for sharing your story. we adopted our son and our life has never been the same.
RevDHW
May 31st, 2009 at 10:46 pm
Check out the June issue of Smithsonian Magazine.
Nicole Wick
May 31st, 2009 at 10:54 pm
Thanks for mentioning it.
If anyone is interested in Babylift there is an article in the June 2009 Smithsonian titled ‘Children of the Dust’.
Thanks Dave :)
Jennifer
June 1st, 2009 at 10:41 am
Thank you so much Nicole for sharing your adoption story.
Heather
June 1st, 2009 at 5:44 pm
What a moving post! Thanks!!
Kim T.
June 1st, 2009 at 7:52 pm
Wow – we have more in common – I was adopted when I was 4 weeks old. My mother was 17 years old, and I have been so grateful all my life that she chose to give me life instead of the alternative. She also stipulated that I be placed in a Christian home. Guess God had a plan for me, even back then. I believe so much in adoption and foster care. I appreciate all you’re doing to raise awareness.
tam
June 1st, 2009 at 10:55 pm
nicole.
wow! i didnt know what to expect when i started reading this…then, i found myself tearing up. what an incredibly touching and beautiful testimony.
so glad youre here with us!
Heidi
June 1st, 2009 at 11:16 pm
I am so drawn to adoption stories. This one grabbed my heart from the beginning.
tam
June 1st, 2009 at 11:31 pm
mine too!
Nicole Wick
June 2nd, 2009 at 9:40 am
Thanks to everyone for reading and sharing. I’m so glad I was able to share my story with you and am glad it touched you. I hope you keep reading! Even more, I hope you check out one of the organizations linked above.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2009 at 3:19 pm
Nicole,
Thank you for your willingness to share your story. Having my own history with adoption, being part of both a birth family and an adoptive family (long story) I have a lot of emotion tied to the subject. Now in my professional life, I have occasion to work with children all the time who are victims of neglect and abuse and desperately need to be heard and protected. I have been contemplating James 1:27 recently and have found that loving and looking after these kids is the easy part. Resisiting the pollution of hopelessness and cynicism is the part I struggle with daily. Thank you, again for the reminder that God has plans for every single one of His children which defy what so often appear to be impossible odds and circumstances.
gailbhyatt
June 2nd, 2009 at 7:00 pm
Thank you for calling my attention to your story. Thank you for your passion and for spreading the gospel, the whole gospel.
We all must do something, somewhere, for someone. It’s not optional.
May God bless all that your hands and heart find to do.
Gail
Sarah (Real Life)
June 9th, 2009 at 9:56 pm
What an inspiring testimony! I have a piano student who is adopted from Vietnam, and she is so precious! Her family goes back on mission trips to help the orphans. It’s touching!
eloranicole
June 12th, 2009 at 8:53 pm
This was incredibly moving, Nicole. Have you checked out love146? The story behind this organization is breathtaking & is one of my favorites fighting for human trafficking victims. (http://love146.com)
Blessings!
Robin ~ PENSIEVE
June 17th, 2009 at 12:37 pm
What a lovely account of being given much, then giving much in return. I understand why this is such a special post :).
You’re making a difference in the lives of many!
:)
corrin
June 17th, 2009 at 12:53 pm
What a fantastic story – I always thought adoptive parents are extra special parents because they fight so hard to bring their children home.
Emily
June 17th, 2009 at 1:09 pm
What a beautiful story.
Adoption/foster care is something my husband and I have considered for awhile. I hope someday to make that a reality!
Lisa
June 19th, 2009 at 12:17 am
thank-you for blessing my life with your story! I sponsor 3 children through Compassion international and do short term mission trips in the Dominican Republic each summer. I also sponsor a child in the DR; I sponsor one through World Vision International, as well.
Be blessed,
Lolli
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September 8th, 2009 at 6:32 am
[...] as my “orphan mentality” and was deeply convicted when I first read Nicole’s story. I often live as if I were an orphan, but Nicole literally was an orphan as a result of the [...]
Jeff Holton
October 10th, 2009 at 2:48 am
Hey Nicole.
You added me on Twitter today. Dunno how you found me, but hi! :)
I posted my adoption story at http://jeffholton.com/alex
He turns 6 in a few weeks. Hard to believe it’s been over five years since we brought him home.
debbie
October 28th, 2009 at 2:40 pm
I was 17 and a junior in high school when the airlift occurred. My youth leader in high school adopted a baby from the airlift and that deeply touched my heart. Twenty years later in 1995, we adopted our little girl from Vietnam. It was a 20 year dream come true. She is now 15 years old. In 2000 we started a non-profit to help the orphans there and currently have about 80 placed in Christian homes. I love and share your passion. God changed the course of my life through an orphan…several times! He is amazing.
Pokinatcha
November 17th, 2009 at 5:47 pm
We adopted my husband’s niece, nephew & their half-sister 3 years ago. The first year we had them it was under relative caregiver and foster parent. So we’ve had them a total of 4 years.
It’s been one of the most challenging things I’ve ever done. The verse that’s carried me through is Galatians 6:9.
Stretch Mark Mama
November 18th, 2009 at 9:48 pm
Wow, wow, wow, and wow! I had no idea! You know, I’ve been immersed in the adoption world for about five years now but the Vietnam airlift is not a story I’d heard about. It’s all so intricate and incredible.
I have our trip to China to adopt our little girl documented online if anyone wants to read it: http://snippetsandsagas.blogspot.com/2009/02/our-china-adoption-trip.html
Choy
January 23rd, 2010 at 3:40 am
i was an adopted child since birth, whether i will know my biological parents or not, I leave that with all trust to God. i am deeply engross by your story. i know how does it feel. that’s why i treasure my foster family a lot esp. my grandmother… now i am striving to finish a degree to help also other children in streets…