Lap Dance? Anyone?
While I was on my blog break I read something about Christian women having lap dancing lessons at their bachelorette parties or bridal showers. I’m assuming that these aren’t the ladies’ tea type showers held in church basements. Anyway, the deal is that women getting together to have fun, to learn about feeling more sensual in their own skins, and to focus on performing exclusively for their husbands is a good thing. Maybe even a Godly thing.
Pole dancing has become the new exercise class du jour at many health clubs. I’ve heard of pole dancing lessons as a bridal party bonding activity too. I won’t be signing up, mainly because I’m way too out of shape to hop up on a pole. Plus, the see-through shoes scare me. But if I were limber enough to get myself into an upside-down split, would I want to? Would it be good for me, my husband, or our marriage? Would God approve?
I’ve honestly never thought about it before. I’m curious, what are your thoughts?
As long as it’s for your own man in your own home/hotel room/janitor’s closet/whatever, I think it’s cool. What I don’t get is the need for lap-dance “lessons”. Really ladies? You put on the shoes and shake it.
I mean…I’m pretty sure that’s how its done…ya know…if I were to wager a guess…*blushes*
as long as if it for your own partner than yes. its 2010 stop thinking its the 50′s ppl!! i dont like porn as much as the next person that doesnt but i love to dance not saying ive ever done it on a pole before but i have always wanted to try to see if i could do it b/c the girls who do it make it look so easy. i think christians today are stuck up most of the time and to sensitive on some issues that dont need to be b/c again this isnt the 50′s anymore. things change as well as how ppl think today then back then.
i'd be all for lap dances from my wife :)
Barf.
My mother would have died if I did that at my shower!
I'm sure you aren't the only husband that feels that way :)
haha.. I'm sure if I took a vote from my buddies I wouldn't be in the minority
Ya know, maybe it’s not such a bad idea. Many women are so self-conscious, myself included, that something like this just might help them see that it’s ok to loosen up a bit and be a “little wild” for their man. As David said in a comment here, I’m sure that many hubby’s wouldn’t mind their wives performing a dance or two for them. Of course, like you Nicole, my mom would have died had it been done in a shower setting (lol) but then again, perhaps that’s what the bachelorette party is for! :)
This posts makes me upset, and I’m not 100% sure why Nicole…. :(
It’s not you.. I think it’s sad to me that Legalism has become such a driving force for American Religiousity that we have to actually have these discussions.
It’s really sad.
What would we say if black people adorned black face, and pretended to be slaves, but just for their own spouses? And they had clubs that taught black people how to do this, and it was a form of excersize? It’s really the pornification of women writ large, and it’s not ok to be doing any of this.
Right? I mean, is some guy really going to say “that was great, but you need to work on your toe point”?
As long as it’s for her husband, I don’t see any problem with it. Why is it so horrible that a wife would want to do something like dancing for her husband?
It’s wrong if men force their wives into porn style acts, that’s what makes this all so creepy.
And this is huge with men, the porn industry etc. These are not just innocent things, they are promoting a view of women that is patently degrading, and any man who would support this is well part of the problem. Porn is incideous this way.
That made me laugh :)
Good point. I’ve gotten so much more comfortable with myself over the years. I wish I would have had that feeling years ago.
Haha! You should do it for your wedding shower ;) Could you imagine Nana! LOL!
That is a true. Sad, but true.
I don’t know that it’s horrible at all. Like I said in the post, I’ve actually never thought of it before.
I can see how objectification of women could be a concern.
I’m pretty sure that we can all agree that men forcing their wives into anything is never ok.
Agreed! Being forced to do something like this is always wrong, but I am under the impression that this discussion is about women who are taking this type of “class” because it is something that they want to do, not because they are being force to learn how to perform for their husbands. There are many women who were brought up in very “stoic” homes and are not comfortable in exploring this type of “behavior” and feel embarrassed even with their own spouses (sad but true). I have had women tell me stories that this type of “class” helped give them some self-confidence to be a little more sexy for their hubbys. Some might not understand, some will.
i’m not married, but i’m going to speak to this anyway. . .
i think it is a slippery slope. just as porn use doesn’t begin as aggressive or addictive, i feel like the whole role-play form of foreplay can start a couple down a road of unfulfilled fantasy. . .
I think that would be very true for many couples.