Comments on: Guest Post: David Goodwin

By: "El"

"El" — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 15:42:15 +0000

Hi David, I appreciate your bravery to speak on the subject and I am very much in sync with your perspective. I have a 30 year old son who is gay. It took us throught several years of seperation (mainly by him). It wasn't that I was hard or cold towards him. I could live with the arrangement that I won't preach condemnation and hellfire on you if you don't flaunt your lifestyle around my family and friends. But he was determined almost to flaunt it to people I felt didn't need to see or hear of his lifestyle.
So after years of seperation we have been communicating mostly on FB. He came to his youngest brother's wedding recently and actually had a great time around straight people. I think that may have been a breakthrough for him because most of these people were Christian friends and everyone loved him and was glad to see him.
I appreciate your post here and can honestly say I understand how we categarize sin into different little compartments. Most preachers use the, “drinking, smoking and sexual sins” as the 3 no no's in life…like as if these are the big ones. Too bad they don't make “clubs or bars” for selfish people or “unforgiving” people or…you get the picture huh? Then we could say, I saw you at “pride” bar the other night… Ok I'm rambling now. Be blessed all of you. El

By: Prudence

Prudence — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 02:35:20 +0000

Wow. Thanks for sharing your story David. We can all learn a lot from this post.

By: JennyRain

JennyRain — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 05:43:26 +0000

you have a blog? How did I not know this? must go find it now… bye for now!

By: machroi

machroi — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 05:38:12 +0000

And he's very much a man. Rowr.

By: David

David — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 03:45:10 +0000

No worries Brian. In terms of sexual attraction, yes – that's an accurate representation – no longer attracted to men.

But, as a I said in the post, I didn't really want to test that until relatively recently either (the past couple of years)…I'd avoid situations where I thought there was a possibility I might feel attracted to a man. I don't avoid them anymore.

By: David

David — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 03:39:11 +0000

Think of our current absence from the UK as being preparation for what we really needed to bring there…we've been enriched by our stay here more than I can say :)

By: Brian Gerald

Brian Gerald — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 03:31:38 +0000

Thanks so much responding. I really appreciate it. And I'm glad that you've found happiness and partnership!

I realized after re-reading my original comment I wasn't entirely clear. I think it's safe to say that the general public understands “gay” as “attracted to the same gender” and “used to be gay” as “no longer attracted to the same gender” and yet I've known folks to redefine “used to be gay” to mean something different–all those things I listed before. Which seems to be dishonest in spirit and misleading to folks who are straight or still gay.

So when you say “used to be gay,” what I (and I imagine others) gather is that you used to be attracted to men but now are no longer. Is that an accurate representation?

By: David

David — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 03:30:00 +0000

Definitely there is freedom in vulnerability. Making yourself open to potential ridicule or worse is always going to be difficult, but the freedom in not having to maintain walls that don't need to be there ultimately far outweighs that difficulty.

Thanks so much for your encouragement today, mate!

By: David

David — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 03:26:39 +0000

Reminds me of the “grace” v “truth” discussion in the car last night – haha.

By: David

David — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 03:25:40 +0000

Can't wait to read who you have to share Carl. Thank you!