Comments on: Sticks and Stones http://www.nicolewick.com/2010/02/sticks-and-stones/ Nicole Wick Thu, 09 Sep 2010 03:37:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Nicole http://www.nicolewick.com/2010/02/sticks-and-stones/comment-page-1/#comment-1236 Nicole Wed, 03 Feb 2010 16:53:52 +0000 http://www.nicolewick.com/?p=1751#comment-1236 Almost forgot... David - I think I disagree... or maybe I'm confused. I confuse easily :) Brookie - Totally agree. Almost forgot…

David – I think I disagree… or maybe I’m confused. I confuse easily :)

Brookie – Totally agree.

]]> By: Nicole http://www.nicolewick.com/2010/02/sticks-and-stones/comment-page-1/#comment-1235 Nicole Wed, 03 Feb 2010 16:31:35 +0000 http://www.nicolewick.com/?p=1751#comment-1235 Steve - I'm both shocked and disappointed by your comment. I thought I knew you better. I'm not one to delete negative comments but that was out right mean and I refuse to have it on this blog. Steve – I’m both shocked and disappointed by your comment. I thought I knew you better. I’m not one to delete negative comments but that was out right mean and I refuse to have it on this blog.

]]> By: Brookie http://www.nicolewick.com/2010/02/sticks-and-stones/comment-page-1/#comment-1233 Brookie Wed, 03 Feb 2010 15:33:22 +0000 http://www.nicolewick.com/?p=1751#comment-1233 "Do a person’s religious or political beliefs about sexual orientation influence his or her use of words? Should they?" I believe that a person's religious beliefs should absolutely influence everything that they say. For Christians, we are the body of Christ. No matter what we do, we must remember that we are representing Christ on earth. It's impossible to do exactly what Jesus did; perfection is far out of our reach. But I think it's a worthy goal to have a Christlike attitude. Attitude transformation is a much more reachable goal than perfection and sinlessness in my opinion. Christ said some tough things to hypocrites, but to sinners? Grace. I don't know where I stand on homosexuality anymore, but that doesn't matter. What matters to me is to "act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with [my] God." Calling someone a derogatory name doesn't fit that bill, but loving them and treating them with kindness definitely does. “Do a person’s religious or political beliefs about sexual orientation influence his or her use of words? Should they?”

I believe that a person’s religious beliefs should absolutely influence everything that they say. For Christians, we are the body of Christ. No matter what we do, we must remember that we are representing Christ on earth. It’s impossible to do exactly what Jesus did; perfection is far out of our reach. But I think it’s a worthy goal to have a Christlike attitude. Attitude transformation is a much more reachable goal than perfection and sinlessness in my opinion. Christ said some tough things to hypocrites, but to sinners? Grace.

I don’t know where I stand on homosexuality anymore, but that doesn’t matter. What matters to me is to “act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with [my] God.” Calling someone a derogatory name doesn’t fit that bill, but loving them and treating them with kindness definitely does.

]]> By: David Waters http://www.nicolewick.com/2010/02/sticks-and-stones/comment-page-1/#comment-1232 David Waters Wed, 03 Feb 2010 12:00:53 +0000 http://www.nicolewick.com/?p=1751#comment-1232 Is there a gay community? Is there a community of folks that refer to them selves as gay or as queens? Is there a community of people who refer to them selves as N'gahs? You are what you tell your self you are and GOD FORBID anyone else refer to you as what you refer to your self as. It's absurd. Neither person is more offensive or acceptable. We're all sinners saved by grace who keep on sinning. Get over it. Move on. Forgive. The best demonstration I've seen was from some folks who don't respond. They don't entertain it when encountered. They wait for you to shut up then they change the subject. Personally, for me silence is agreement. But then I'm stupid enough to engage and want to get the last word in. Right fighters lose a lot of potential friendship opportunities. Selah ~ ** on earth as it is in heaven, I don't believe any of this is an issue in heaven, but I also believe it will always be an issue here, especially the more we entertain it on blogs. Is there a gay community? Is there a community of folks that refer to them selves as gay or as queens?

Is there a community of people who refer to them selves as N’gahs? You are what you tell your self you are and GOD FORBID anyone else refer to you as what you refer to your self as.

It’s absurd. Neither person is more offensive or acceptable.

We’re all sinners saved by grace who keep on sinning. Get over it. Move on. Forgive.

The best demonstration I’ve seen was from some folks who don’t respond. They don’t entertain it when encountered. They wait for you to shut up then they change the subject.

Personally, for me silence is agreement. But then I’m stupid enough to engage and want to get the last word in.

Right fighters lose a lot of potential friendship opportunities.

Selah ~

** on earth as it is in heaven, I don’t believe any of this is an issue in heaven, but I also believe it will always be an issue here, especially the more we entertain it on blogs.

]]> By: Nicole http://www.nicolewick.com/2010/02/sticks-and-stones/comment-page-1/#comment-1231 Nicole Wed, 03 Feb 2010 06:06:35 +0000 http://www.nicolewick.com/?p=1751#comment-1231 Sam - Thank for the kind words. That section of your blog sounds interesting. I'll have to check it out! Rich - love your heart... how Jesus-like of you ;) That's exactly how we should all be. Sam – Thank for the kind words. That section of your blog sounds interesting. I’ll have to check it out!

Rich – love your heart… how Jesus-like of you ;) That’s exactly how we should all be.

]]> By: Rich http://www.nicolewick.com/2010/02/sticks-and-stones/comment-page-1/#comment-1230 Rich Wed, 03 Feb 2010 05:50:34 +0000 http://www.nicolewick.com/?p=1751#comment-1230 Nicole - thanks for writing this. I have two good friends who are gay. Some people don't understand how I can be a pastor and have such a close relationship with them. Well, I went to high school with both, and grew up in church with one. I will continue to love them as I always have. They know these things - I love them as brothers, I will defend them against hate, that I pray for them daily. Nicole – thanks for writing this. I have two good friends who are gay. Some people don’t understand how I can be a pastor and have such a close relationship with them. Well, I went to high school with both, and grew up in church with one. I will continue to love them as I always have. They know these things – I love them as brothers, I will defend them against hate, that I pray for them daily.

]]> By: Sam Mahlstadt http://www.nicolewick.com/2010/02/sticks-and-stones/comment-page-1/#comment-1229 Sam Mahlstadt Wed, 03 Feb 2010 05:50:21 +0000 http://www.nicolewick.com/?p=1751#comment-1229 I love this post. I am from Iowa, where the ban from gay marriage is being hotly debated and in the state supreme court. I have a section on my blog called The Conversation where I engage someone who believes very differently than me (usually an atheist) in a dialogue about faith. I was excited to do a new post with a gay man about his experience with Christians - and how the religious right has made him feel. Words are dangerous, and can be horribly destructive, even when they are meant to be corrective. Anyways, he backed out, and is thinking about it. I hope he decides to jump in, because I believe we need places where healing can occur. I love this post. I am from Iowa, where the ban from gay marriage is being hotly debated and in the state supreme court. I have a section on my blog called The Conversation where I engage someone who believes very differently than me (usually an atheist) in a dialogue about faith. I was excited to do a new post with a gay man about his experience with Christians – and how the religious right has made him feel. Words are dangerous, and can be horribly destructive, even when they are meant to be corrective. Anyways, he backed out, and is thinking about it. I hope he decides to jump in, because I believe we need places where healing can occur.

]]> By: Nicole http://www.nicolewick.com/2010/02/sticks-and-stones/comment-page-1/#comment-1227 Nicole Wed, 03 Feb 2010 04:12:55 +0000 http://www.nicolewick.com/?p=1751#comment-1227 Alex - Haha! I also love Andew Marin. We were introduced this year through a mutual friend. In fact I'll be interviewing him and giving away "Love is an Orientation" here in the next few months. I'm so glad you mentioned that book. He is awesome! Alex – Haha! I also love Andew Marin. We were introduced this year through a mutual friend. In fact I’ll be interviewing him and giving away “Love is an Orientation” here in the next few months. I’m so glad you mentioned that book. He is awesome!

]]> By: Alex Lowe http://www.nicolewick.com/2010/02/sticks-and-stones/comment-page-1/#comment-1226 Alex Lowe Wed, 03 Feb 2010 04:09:43 +0000 http://www.nicolewick.com/?p=1751#comment-1226 I recommend every Christian read "Love is an Orientation". In it, you gain a pespective that can only be learned from deep and real relationships with members of the GLBT community. In fact, you'd learn that the word "homosexual" is derogatory to many in the GLBT community. =) Most important, you'd learn what it looks like to love people who are different than you. Great book. I recommend every Christian read “Love is an Orientation”. In it, you gain a pespective that can only be learned from deep and real relationships with members of the GLBT community. In fact, you’d learn that the word “homosexual” is derogatory to many in the GLBT community. =) Most important, you’d learn what it looks like to love people who are different than you. Great book.

]]> By: Nicole http://www.nicolewick.com/2010/02/sticks-and-stones/comment-page-1/#comment-1225 Nicole Wed, 03 Feb 2010 03:55:34 +0000 http://www.nicolewick.com/?p=1751#comment-1225 Crystal - Your transparency is one of the many, many things I love about you. Thanks for sharing it here. When will we all learn that greace isn't ours to give? It's only there for us to receive. Crystal – Your transparency is one of the many, many things I love about you. Thanks for sharing it here. When will we all learn that greace isn’t ours to give? It’s only there for us to receive.

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